How Are You Managing Your Cycle of Life?
Assess your Progress by Pamela Levin
Below are statements that express the tasks of each of the stages in the
cycle of life. In the blank before each stage, rate how well or poorly you do with each of them by choosing a
number between 1 (the lowest score) and 10 (the highest score).
Remember that this is not about being perfect or having to measure up, or failing to achieve or competing with
others.
Your total score in each stage is merely an indicator of where you stand in terms of needing to carry out the
growth tasks in that stage. Everyone needs to carry out these tasks, and everyone does better with them at some
times than at others. Use this information to take care of yourself – to help you create smooth life passages in
all your life seasons.
Stage One
I am able to:
_____Create the bonds with others that sustain me
_____Discern and decide for myself when to trust
and when not to trust
_____Know what I feel -- scared, sad, mad, glad.
_____Be aware of when I am tired or hungry and take care of myself
accordingly.
My score is ________out of a total possible score of
40.
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Stage Two
_____I am able to:
_____Find ways to satisfy my curiosity in healthy ways
_____Provide for enough variety in my life to keep myself refreshed
_____Balance sufficient activity with times of adequate rest
_____Maintain my sustaining connections with others while exploring.
My score is ________out of a total possible score of
50
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Stage Three
I am able to:
_____Know where I stop and someone else begins
_____Create and maintain healthy boundaries
_____Recognize others’ boundaries and respect them
whether or not I like or agree with them
_____Think about myself, my own life, my own problems
and think to find solutions
_____Be responsible for my commitments, including
my word with other people.
My score is ________out of a total possible score of
50.
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Stage Four
I am able to:
_____Establish who I am in a group of others without overpowering
or alienating others or giving up myself
_____Explore my ability to affect others in positive ways
_____Update my sense of self and who I am rather than being rigid, fixated
_____Move from periods of uncertainty about myself and my role in the social world to become at peace with who I
am
_____Accept and deal with the consequences of my own behavior
_____Allow others to accept and learn from the consequences
of their own behavior – or not learn, as they choose.
My score is ________out of a total possible score of
60.
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Stage Five
I am able to:
_____Periodically update my skills
_____Review what I value as I grow older, and reset my priorities
_____Exhibit tolerance for others’ ways of doing things
_____Contribute to society in positive ways
_____Disagree with others without blaming or criticizing them
_____Recognize and respectfully decline invitations to be used.
My score is ________out of a total possible score of
60.
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Stage Six
I am able to:
_____Adjust to my changing sexual maturity as I grow through
early, middle and older adulthood.
_____Accept increasing responsibility for the contents of my life and
make the changes I deem necessary to carry them out
_____Express my creativity in ways that are healthy for me and for society
_____Find ways to stand up to social injustice that do not harm me or others.
_____Recognize that the world does not owe me a living, and stand on my own two feet; support myself
_____Accept support from others and support others in mutually beneficial
exchanges
_____Take responsibility for my own health and well-being and make the ………… life adjustments that will maintain
them.
_____Acknowledge that my own reservoir of personal pain exists and take
effective steps to heal it.
My score is ________out of a total possible score of
80.
My overall score (adding all my scores together) is ________out of a total possible score of
340.
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Copyright © 2007 by Pamela Levin, All Rights Reserved.
Excerpted from The Cycle of Life: Creating Smooth Passages in Every Life
Season
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