(Article for your
blog, email copy or
The Two Most
Failure to Include Them Could Sabotage
Your Relationships and Even Your
Pamela Levin, R.N.,
Pamela Levin is an R.N. and a Teaching and Supervising
Transactional Analyst with 500+ postgraduate hours in clinical nutrition, herbology and applied kinesiology. In
private practice 42 years, she has seen first-hand the incredible power of actively placing your own and
others' emotional lives at the center of your relationships. She has taught and trained professional and
lay audiences around the world. She currently teaches her award-winning work on the process of healthy emotional
development throughout life in
[your affiliate link to ed101]
Ask someone if they'd rather deal with all the anguish of a relationship gone sour, which can feel
like being sucker-punched in the gut, or having their heart ripped out, or being hit with a brick bat, or keeping
the relationship, a lot of people might chose to keep the relationship.
That's how much it can hurt. There's all that pain of
loss, and then there's also all that self-doubt and recrimination: "Where did I go wrong?","What's the matter with
me?", "I'll never succeed!" and on and on.
Add to all that the fact that one
relationship going bad affects so many other ones. Because you were friends with the friends of your friend, or you
were included in family get-togethers because of your relationship with the person with whom you
cannot-now-be-with, out of respect for them, their friends and relations now start creating distance from you. It's
enough to make you want to crawl into the fetal position and suck your thumb!
The short story is, we're best off
to prevent this from
happening in the first place as far as we are able. Yes, your
social and emotional life can work well
and proceed in a positive way, especially if
you don’t make these two of the most common
While it's definitely true that the above
outcome sometimes simply cannot be avoided, still, what can you do minimize the likelihood? The following are two
key messages that summarize this.
One: Send the message to yourself (in service of your own
emotional life) and to others you relate to, that it's OK to be connected, to be emotionally close, to share your
true thoughts and feelings (in a kind and considerate way) both with yourself and for others to share theirs with
Number Two: Send the message, (again, both to yourself and to others), that it's OK to be separate, to
be an individual person, to have your own wants, needs, your own life.
Whether the relationship is internal -- with yourself in
your own emotional life, or external -- with someone else, together, these two messages consistently and sincerely
given can neutralize these two most common reasons why emotional lives and relationships go sour.
[affiliate product link][your clickbank
Tags: emotional development social social development stages of emotional development what is emotional development emotional health kids emotional development what is emotional health social intelligence emotional development 101 emotional intelligence Pam Levin Nourishing Company emotional development 101 emotional development emotional intelligence Pam Levin Nourishing Company Adult development